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Anger Doesn't Happen in a Vacuum

We have a right to all of our feelings (and even if you don't think we have a right to our feelings, we have them anyway...). When people look for help with their anger, they are really looking for help with their angry behavior. Many tell me, "we were talking about something important, but once I got angry and yelled, the topic changed to my behavior, and we never got back to the real issue at hand..."


Once you start working on your angry behavior, you will still have to deal with whatever important issues got you angry in the first place. You weren't just getting angry in a vacuum--for no reason--something was said or done that upset you, and you will still have to deal with whatever caused that upset.


By modifying your angry behavior, you will make your communication more effective, and that, in turn, will let you more effectively reach a satisfying resolution to whatever difficult issue you had started out to address in the first place.


I can help you get the focus back on the issues that are important to you and your loved ones, co-workers, etc.

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